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Why I Stopped Hating the Church Why I Stopped Hating the Church

- (Huffington) - 1 years, 7 months ago...

Photo Credit: Steven Pavlov When I was twelve, I fell off my bike and hurt my arm, bad. We didn't have much money and my dad, an EMT, was from a different generation. You didn't go to the hospital every time you took a tumble. He wanted to give it time, ice it, and keep an eye on it. "Probably just a bad fall, bud. Take a couple of Tylenol." He wasn't being a jerk. He was just calm under pressure, and very practical. While all of that makes sense now, then, I was pissed. The next day, when it still hurt, we went for x-rays. "He has a hairline fracture," the doctor said, pointing to the flimsy film. A few weeks with a cast, names and faces in Sharpie marker, and I could officially say I'd had broken a bone. It was the manliest thing I'd ever done. My dad was in the driveway when the pea gravel fooled my bike's tire. He knew I was hurt, even if he didn't know to what extent, and he did what he thought was right. It didn't soften the blow, my arm was still broken, but what if I had taken a baseball bat to his truck in a fit of rage because he didn't respond in the way I felt most appropriate? What if, upon returning from the orthopedist, my mom slapped him in the face for not immediately taking me to the ER? That was my response to the Church for more than a decade. A baseball bat and a slap in the face. I'd been wronged by religion. In my brokenness, I was outraged. I had open sores left by my experiences. Instead of allowing the shepherd of my soul to heal me, for so long, I smeared my pain on the Church's steeple and dared it to question my response. A few years ago, my wife and I supported a family trying to start a new Church. Several couples met in our home, determined to be different. Only, we were worse than the places we had left. For weeks, we wallowed in our weariness and confessed all the ways we'd been harmed by religion. Eventually, we left that angry little group, because it's hard to find healing when all you do is pick at your scabs. After ten years, I have begun to meditate over past hurts and consider my most faithful response to the Church today. But why did it take me ten years to get to this point? All the thoughts and role-playing we do in our heads before we try and find a solution. I did it for way too long. Nearly two months ago, I secretly drove over to my childhood home, a tiny house in rural Alabama. I parked in the chert rock driveway and spotted the notice of foreclosure sign taped to the front window. As I stood next to the pink crepe myrtle in the side yard, words wouldn't come. Yet, none were needed. Thirty years before, I had stood there, a little boy, not yet in school, and lost my innocence to the selfishness of our neighbor. Someone older than me, someone who should have known right from wrong. For years, I looked back on the days and weeks that followed my childhood sexual abuse with anger. I felt that not nearly...

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